BADASS BOUNDARIES

12 weeks to practice setting, maintaining, and navigating healthy boundaries in your relationships at home, at work, and in your community, without feeling guilty and continually exhausting your energy.

Badass Boundaries

You’ve tried everything to:

  • Be seen and heard in your relationships
  • Finally say YES to yourself, truly honoring your personal limits and prioritize taking care of you
  • Have your needs and desires validated and met – without feeling guilty
  • Stop shrinking yourself into the desires and expectations of others
  • Stop being overly responsible for others’ behaviors and responses
  • Say no, and just let that be that
  • Stop silencing your true desires for connection, validation, and respect

…but relationships are not as easy as simply wanting change.

The anxiety, fear, and overwhelm that comes with trying to give voice to your boundaries is real. 

And the different things you’ve tried:

    • Books
    • Podcasts 
    • Therapy
    • Journaling
    • even other modalities like EFT and Somatic Work

They’ve helped to move you forward in our personal development – but the tension with boundaries still remains.

Habits of people-pleasing, overworking and putting yourself last make it hard to feel satisfied with life – especially because you’re an overachiever. A high performer. You KNOW what it means to create results and grow in nearly every other area.

But relational boundaries?

Something’s missing.

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You're working way too hard

You cover for your team members, contractors, and employees, you take on extra projects because you know the business or the company needs them to get done (even if you’re utterly drained and exhausted)…You’re burnt out and overwhelmed. You don’t have enough time to do the things you love, and your personal relationships are suffering.

You overgive in relationships.

With friends, with family, even with your romantic partner – you’re the one always giving, rescuing, listening, lending, saying yes, sacrificing. They call whenever they need help, and it’s always an emergency even when it’s not. You are rarely, if ever, the one who is receiving. 

 

You’re afraid to say no

Because you’re sure it’ll cost you. A relationship will shatter, something will break, you won’t know how to repair it and you’ll lose someone who truly matters to you. So you just keep giving and giving and giving… and you’re running on fumes.

At the end of it all: your relationships are suffering (even if they don’t realize it).

Your body is suffering. Your dreams are suffering.

You need a reset and you need it now.

If any of that sounds familiar to you – you’re meant to be reading this. 

And I want to let you know that the clients who I’ve worked with that resonate with all of this, usually have experienced some type of trauma.

Whether it’s:

  • Childhood neglect or abuse
  • Manipulation and betrayal
  • More recent emotional, verbal, or even physical abuse
  • or any other kind of trauma

– usually there’s something there.

The Good News Is…

You are not broken.

Trauma did not break you. It taught you a set of skills that were necessary for a particular time in your life, and that might be necessary still. But, you are not broken. When you heal and transform trauma, you are adding new skills to your toolbox so that you can have more choices for how to respond to what happens in your life.

You are enough.

Your body is intelligent. That means you already have everything you need to break the cycle of over-functioning and over-giving. There is a wisdom within you that knows exactly what to do if you know how to listen and allow it.

Your built-in bodily responses to stress, disconnection and overwhelming experiences are hardwired into your nervous system to protect you. Occasionally your responses to experiences of overwhelm can start to look like post-traumatic stress symptoms or even just deeply ingrained habits or ways of being that feel immovable or stuck. That’s because your bodymind is trying to complete the protective response that was initiated during an overwhelming experience, and return to its original state of balance.

It can feel like things are going haywire, but actually your nervous system is still working to right itself. And it can, with the right tools and time.

You are not alone.

As trauma survivors, we often find ourselves in this impossible bind. We learned long ago that the best way to get through was to track everything and everyone, take care of everyone else’s needs before our own, and stay vigilant. But now this extraordinary skill set that makes us remarkable in a lot of ways sometimes has a heavy cost. We don’t want to have to carry the burden of holding up the world, and let me tell you now: you don’t have to.

Can you imagine for a moment what it would feel like?

To fully own your NO and your YES, simply stating your needs without fear, anxiety, guilt or taking on others’ problems? And to have that honored in your relationships?

Or when your yes or no is not honored, to know how to respond as your full authentic self: grounded and owning your truth without backpedaling, people-pleasing, or shrinking to try to make others comfortable?

To be met in the places of your desires, preferences, and needs by team members, friends, family members, romantic partners?

Finally feeling brave and free enough to voice the things you’ve always held close to your heart but never said?

To know without a shadow of doubt that the boundaries you have set and maintain actually give you richer and more meaningful relationships – and a richer fuller life?

That you actually have space to feel your own presence in the world, to live out your own dreams without guilt or sacrificing yourself – taking care of you and pouring out from a full cup into the people who also pour back into you?

Take a moment and breathe that in…

What would that feel like for you?

Does it even feel possible?

If you can suspend your disbelief for a moment and take my word for it, I can assure you that it is possible.

And I don’t only know this because of the clients I’ve worked with

Hi, I’m Sonya.  I’m a trauma specialist and relationship expert who specializes in creative life and relationship design for overachieving trauma survivors and their partners.  I love helping trauma survivors feel more alive, connected and authentic so you can create the lives and relationships you truly want. 

I also know this is possible for you because I was where you are.

As a survivor of childhood trauma and neglect myself, I’d done therapy and tons of healing work, and later as a psychotherapist, trauma specialist, and relationship expert, if you had asked me if I had good boundaries, I actually would’ve said yes.

But then life happened in a big way, and I had to face that I had some boundary blind spots, areas where I didn’t even realize that my boundaries were non-existent.

I explored everything:
Talk therapy,
Retreats,
Workshops,
Spiritual healing ceremonies,
Dance therapy,
Hakomi therapy,
Cognitive Behavioral therapy,
Rolfing,
Integrative bodywork,
Shamanic journeys,
Energy healing,
Acupuncture,
Sound healing,
Sensorimotor psychotherapy,
Breathwork
…the list goes on.

This isn’t to say none of those provided any breakthroughs or relief or even some amount of healing.

But…I still found myself in cycles of uncommunicated and unhealthy boundaries.

Eventually, I was able to break that cycle, and here’s what I learned:

>> Our bodies are intelligent. They are the key.

 

We already have everything we need to break the cycle of over-functioning and over-giving.

There is a wisdom within you that knows exactly what to do if you know how to listen and allow it.

Our built-in bodily responses to stress, disconnection and overwhelming experiences are hardwired into our nervous system to protect us.

It can feel like things are going haywire, but actually our nervous system is working to right itself.

And it can – with the right tools and time we can help our bodies to help us to set and maintain boundaries, creating more rich and meaningful boundaries and relational cycles than we’re ever had before.

This is why I created Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors – to offer overachieving, over-functioning, high-performing, over-giving survivors of trauma the right tools to tap into the wisdom of their bodies and the space to exercise that wisdom, to practice it, so we can learn what it feels like to right ourselves and return to center, return to our own balance – and ultimately to move from that place.

This is why somatics, above every other healing modality, is what we engage in this program.

With in-depth training in somatic psychology, relational psychotherapy, group dynamics and somatic coaching (Generative Somatics and the Strozzi Institute), as well as training in trauma recovery through the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Somatic Experiencing Institutes, I’ve learned some shortcuts – so it doesn’t have to take years and years to experience results.

No more outsourcing our bodily wisdom to Google, YouTube and a bunch of podcasts trying to find answers.

No more never receiving or even feeling safe enough to ask.

No more guilt.

Just a proven system, customizable tools, and all the space to activate and practice the tools that will give you back to yourself, and open up the relational reality that you’ve always desired.

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Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors

12 weeks to practice setting, maintaining, and navigating healthy boundaries in your relationships at home, at work, and in your community, without feeling guilty and continually exhausting your energy.

Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors participants clients have:

  • transitioned out of toxic job environments
  • released friendships
  • learned how to love from a distance when a relationship is violating their own boundary
  • shifted from having rigid boundaries into boundaries that were more flexible, permeable, and ultimately aligned with their desires for their relationships
  • learned how to reach for connection
  • begun asking to have their needs met
  • finally been able to say no
  • begun practicing more self-compassion when they ignore or push past a boundary
  • increased their capacity for responding from grounding and center when others say no
  • experienced more a more joyful relationship with themselves and with others
  • created more space for honesty with, and confidence and trust in themselves
  • gotten their energy back
  • finally begun to feel alive again

Such powerful transformations – and similarly powerful change us also available for you.

 

Our Journey Together Will Unfold in Six Learning Modules:

Module ONE: Boundaries Assessment & Your Why
Go from a surface knowledge of boundaries to deep understanding of the 6 types of boundaries and your unique boundary style.

  • Assess Your Boundary Style
  • Get Clear About Your Goals
  • Define a Clear Road Map to Deeper Boundary Intelligence in Your Life & Relationships

Dive into boundaries in every single area of your life and use your boundary style assessment to accurately map out how boundaries have played out in your life so far, and how you want them to unfold moving forward.

Module TWO: Developing Boundary Intelligence
Deepen your understanding of your boundaries – go beyond the cognitive and into body-based practices that will create safety as you navigate boundaries in every area of your life.

  • Learn Three Key Body-Based Practices for Deepening Your Capacity for Negotiating Healthy Boundaries
  • Learn to Ground & Center When You’re Under Pressure
  • Sharpen Your Ability to Be Self-Responsive in the Midst of Life & Work

You’ll discover in real-time how to ground and center when you’re under pressure in your relationships. When life and work get busy and relational stakes are high, you’ll have the tools and capacity to be fully self-responsive (instead of reactive or shrinking).

Module THREE: Navigating Boundaries as a Trauma Survivor
Discover how your unique trauma and how surviving that trauma has affected your patterns and habits around your boundaries – and decide how you will allow your past trauma to activate future patterns around healthy boundaries.

  • Learn About Survival Strategies & How to Mobilize Them in Service of Boundaries
  • Learn Strategies for Working with Overwhelm
  • Get Better at Putting on the Brakes When You Need to

As an overachieving trauma survivor, you have particularly powerful survival strategies that you have developed – and you can mobilize them in service of your boundaries and strategies for working with overwhelm. This module will show you how and give you concrete practices for doing so.

Module FOUR: Boundaries in Intimate & Safe Relationships
Go from simply accepting what is given in relationships to clarifying your desires and assessing your relationships for safety, respect, and mutuality.

  • Assessing Relationships for Safety, Respect & Mutuality
  • Deepening Connection & Intimacy with Boundaries
  • Learning about Boundaries in Partnership with Others

Discover how you can begin to communicate around your desires and needs – thereby communicating your boundaries – so that you deepen your connections and intimacy within your relationships.

Module FIVE: Boundaries in Difficult Relationships
Instead of shrinking, ignoring and deprioritizing your needs when you hear a no, you’ll learn a roadmap for responding to it.

  • Peer Pressure, Emotional Blackmail and Other Forms of Manipulation
  • Managing Fear and Tolerating Disappointing or Upsetting people
  • Boundaries as Self-Defense: Assessing When a Hard No is Necessary

Peer pressure, emotional blackmail, other forms of manipulation, managing fear, and tolerating disappointing or upsetting people, can make navigating your boundaries feel impossible – you’ll begin to discover how to move through those moments, while staying connected to your needs wants and desires. You’ll learn to take meaningful action in service of your boundaries, even when you feel scared. And you’ll learn how to assess when a hard no is necessary, and deliver it with confidence.

Module SIX: Integrating Boundaries into Daily Life
Deepen the practice and patterns you’ve begun engaging throughout modules 1-5, so that you move into developing a daily rhythm with boundaries as a part of your life’s habits.

  • Practices for Deepening Self-Trust, Self-Compassion & Self-Responsiveness
  • What to Do When We Make Boundary Mistakes
  • Integrating Boundary Work into Family, Work & Community Circles

You’ll learn how to engage self-trust, self-compassion & self-responsiveness, how to handle making boundary mistakes, and how to fully integrate boundary work into family, work & community circles.

How Badass Boundaries Will Be Delivered:

  • ​Seven 75-minute expertly facilitated, interactive, live group coaching sessions (meeting via video).
  • Homework with journal and reflection prompts with each module that’ll help you deepen your learning and practice new boundary skills.
  • Pre-recorded Video Trainings to introduce you to and reinforce key concepts and mindset shifts that you need to understand as you develop new habits around your boundaries.
  • Pre-recorded Somatic Practice so that you start to take action and develop new habits around your boundaries and in your relationships, step by step.
  • 1:1 asynchronous coaching to help you integrate and answer questions between live sessions, so that if ever you feel stuck or overwhelmed as you apply what you’re learning, you can receive support.
  • Access to ongoing community support and guidance through our private moderated group.

Plus Your BONUSES:

BONUS #1: Navigating Microaggressions & Conflict Workshop

How many times have we found ourselves at the sharp end of a snide remark at work?

Or felt an uneasy tension bubble up when we finally try setting a boundary with a colleague or loved one?

Microaggressions and conflicts can be those invisible energy drainers for us, and many of us often react defensively, or we silently absorb the harshness of those moments.

And neither of those reactions support the authentic ways we want to move through the world and honor our own beings.

So I’ll be sharing this workshop from my dear colleague, Judy Hu, author of The Boundary Revolution, to specifically equip participants of Badass Boundaries around these issues.

You will:

  • Understand the anatomy of these subtle digs and how we can mobilize our learned trauma responses to firmly and clearly communicate boundaries in these moments.
  • Discover options for dissolving disagreements with grace, asserting your boundaries while respecting others.
  • Cultivate a resilient grace that lets you process and breathe easier in the middle of negative interactions.

BONUS #2: A Worthiness Meditation

Too often we are the saviors, the helpers, the rescuers, and when we look around us, we see how much others struggle and feel very strongly that we don’t have time for ourselves.

We can’t prioritize ourselves. How can we, when others are in such pain? We would be selfish and cruel, right?

No. We ARE worthy of that prioritization.

We are worthy of coming first with ourselves, and learning how to be safe enough to do that is a big part of Badass Boundaries.

So in addition to the other meditations you’ll receive inside this program, I’ve also invited another colleague of mine, Richelle Donigan, Master Visioning Coach, to share her worthiness meditation with us.

This meditation is a powerful experience that will help you:

  • Foster a deep, unshakable belief in your inherent value, independent of external validations or experiences.
  • Clear the mental fog, enabling you to differentiate between constructive criticism and baseless self-doubt.
  • Refill your own inner cup and reconnect with yourself in ways that make it easier to pour into others because you have poured into yourself.

BONUS #3: 7 Scripts – A Boundary Blueprint

If you’ve ever been cornered into a decision at work and left wondering, “How did I end up here?”…

Or you’ve faced that sinking feeling when someone close disregards your boundaries, making you question why you even bothered to speak up in the first place…

This bonus is for you.

Because we all struggle with setting and re-communicating boundaries when people are engaging in peer pressure, emotional blackmail, or other forms of manipulation. We also struggle to manage fear and anxiety and increase our tolerance for disappointing and upsetting people.

In those moments, having the words to say what you’re feeling needs to be said is a game-changer.

No more biting your tongue or feeling cornered; these scripts will be your allies in asserting your space and your needs. You’ll have access to 7 scripts to support you in:

  • Ensuring your voice is heard, so you articulate your needs, desires, and preferences without dilution.
  • Confronting peer pressure, emotional blackmail, or any form of manipulative tactics with poise, grace, and confidence.
  • Cultivating an inner strength that allows you to be on your own side, stand by your boundaries, honor yourself, and better manage the challenges of disappointing or upsetting others.

BONUS #4: The Boundary Crisis Toolkit

In the middle of a boundary violation from someone else, how do you typically respond? Or maybe a better question is how would you like to respond?

It’s hard in those moments. You’re reeling, uncertain, confused, overwhelmed, angry…it’s raw and a lot to hold.

>> So what if you had a lifeline to lead you back to center?

That’s what I’ve designed this toolkit to be.

You’ll gain the resources to:

  • Move through the emotional turmoil instead of aggressively reacting in disconnection, or shrinking and ignoring yourself.
  • Root yourself back to the present moment, and to who you truly want to be and how you want to move through the world.
  • Face boundary breaches with grace and fortitude, knowing that you’re developing the practice of intentionally responding in clear, genuine, and connected ways.

Pricing

One Time Payment

$1297

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Seven 75-minute expertly facilitated, interactive, live group coaching sessions (meeting via video).

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Lifetime Access to Pre-recorded Video Trainings to introduce you to and reinforce key concepts and mindset shifts that you need to understand as you develop new habits around your boundaries.

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Lifetime Access to Pre-recorded Somatic Practice so that you start to take action and develop new habits around your boundaries and in your relationships, step by step.

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Lifetime Access to Homework with journal and reflection prompts with each module that’ll help you deepen your learning and practice new boundary skills.

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12 Weeks of Access to 1:1 asynchronous coaching to help you integrate and answer questions between live sessions, so that if ever you feel stuck or overwhelmed as you apply what you’re learning, you can receive support.

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12 Weeks of Access to ongoing community support and guidance through our private moderated group.

BONUS #1: Navigating Microaggressions & Conflict Workshop

BONUS #2: A Worthiness Meditation

BONUS #3: 7 Scripts – A Boundary Blueprint

BONUS #4: The Boundary Crisis Toolkit

3 Monthly Payments

$475

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Seven 75-minute expertly facilitated, interactive, live group coaching sessions (meeting via video).

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Lifetime Access to Pre-recorded Video Trainings to introduce you to and reinforce key concepts and mindset shifts that you need to understand as you develop new habits around your boundaries.

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Lifetime Access to Pre-recorded Somatic Practice so that you start to take action and develop new habits around your boundaries and in your relationships, step by step.

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Lifetime Access to Homework with journal and reflection prompts with each module that’ll help you deepen your learning and practice new boundary skills.

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12 Weeks of Access to 1:1 asynchronous coaching to help you integrate and answer questions between live sessions, so that if ever you feel stuck or overwhelmed as you apply what you’re learning, you can receive support.

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12 Weeks of Access to ongoing community support and guidance through our private moderated group.

BONUS #1: Navigating Microaggressions & Conflict Workshop

BONUS #2: A Worthiness Meditation

BONUS #3: 7 Scripts – A Boundary Blueprint

BONUS #4: The Boundary Crisis Toolkit

Who Is Badass Boundaries A Good Fit For:

This group is for overachieving trauma survivors of all genders, sexual orientations and racial and ethnic backgrounds.

  • You are creative, quirky, fun-loving, and highly self-aware, seeking individuals, who like to do the most, and are often very good at picking up other people’s slack.
  • You love making a contribution to the world, and are finding ways to make the world a better place.
  • You want to learn how to take better care of yourself and stay in integrity with your values and commitments.
  • You’ve experienced self-neglect, you’re so busy showing up for everyone else, that you don’t actually remember to get in touch with your own needs and desires.
  • You fear sharing your wants, needs and desires because you believe that if you have to ask, you’re already asking for too much and you don’t want to be a burden.
  • You haven’t owned your authority because you don’t want to be perceived as bitchy or mean – so you shrink and say yes when you really want to say no.
  • You’re ready to commit to 12 weeks of exploring and transforming the way you’ve experienced boundaries in your life, ultimately creating richer, more honest, and more deeply connected relationships.

You’ll get the most out of this course if:

  • You know yourself well and are pretty self-reflective
  • You’re comfortable with being in an emotional process
  • You like to be challenged
  • You are up for trying on some new ideas, and willing to do things differently than you have done before
  • You’re willing to speak up when you’re not getting what you need, even if it’s hard
  • You are committed to showing up 100% for this program
  • You want to learn in community with other like-minded folks who are committed to personal growth

This is NOT for you if:

  • You want a self-paced home study program. This program requires your participation to get the most out of it. Although sessions will be recorded, this program works best with active in-person engagement.
  • You’re experiencing severe acute stress or PTSD symptoms.
  • You’re looking for a therapy group — this is NOT a therapy group and will not provide that kind of processing space or therapeutic holding during calls.

I put this program together for you because I believe that, no matter what your story or history, it’s possible to build relationships you can celebrate, and I want to support you in making it happen.

Think about every morning you wake up dreading the day to come because you don’t have the resources to handle what’s in front of you. What is it costing you? In dollars? In time with loved ones? In mental and physical health? What is it costing you to keep suffering through your day, your life?

You don’t have to tolerate relationships that aren’t working for you. You can take steps towards creating the life you want today. And it starts with better boundaries.

My commitment is to give you the step-by-step training, loving coaching, targeted strategy and nourishing support you need to find your own flow and freedom within your relationships and become masterful at navigating boundaries.

What's the refund policy?

This program is non-refundable.  We’re embarking on a journey together, and it will add to the safety and integrity of the group if we can trust that we’ll be in it together the whole way through. 

Not sure if it’s right for you?  Please take the time to read through this page, and tune into what your guts and your heart have to tell you about making this investment.  This is also a boundary decision for you.  Give yourself the space to really listen to that quiet voice inside about whether this is right for you at this time.  If you still have questions, feel free to book a call by clicking any of the call links on this page.

FAQ

What is the program about?

Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors is a 12-week group mentorship program dedicated to empowering you to reclaim your time and energy, and eliminate the habits that get in the way of having healthy boundaries.

Who is this program for?

This group is for overachieving survivors of childhood trauma. Folks of all genders, sexual orientations and racial and ethnic backgrounds. You are a creative, quirky fun-loving group of folks who like to do the most, and are often very good at picking up other people’s slack. You love making a contribution to the world, and are finding ways to make the world a better place. You’re learning how to take better care of yourself while staying in integrity with your values and commitments. You’re learning to trust that even if you don’t do the most, shit will still get done, and you will still be more than good enough… regardless of the outcome. You’re learning (or remembering) that your joy and pleasure matter too, and you’re committed to enjoying your life, one day at a time.

Who is it not for?

You want a self-paced home study program. This program requires your participation to get the most out of it. Although sessions will be recorded, this program works best with active in-person engagement. You’re experiencing severe acute stress or PTSD symptoms. You’re looking for a therapy group — this is NOT a therapy group and will not provide that kind of processing space or therapeutic holding during calls.

How long will the program last?

12 weeks

What do I get when I join?

  • 12-Week Group Mentorship Program
  • Six Learning Modules
  • 75-minute LIVE interactive group coaching sessions
  • Community support & Guidance through our private moderated Group
  • And for those who choose to purchase the 1:1 coaching add-on, you’ll have access to weekly asynchronous video or direct message coaching directly with Sonya.

What are the dates of the sessions?

Thursday, 12/7/23 Course Officially Begins – Kick Off Call 6pm
Thursday, 12/14/23 Live Coaching Call – Module 1
Thursday, 1/11/24 Live Coaching Call – Module 2
Thursday, 1/25/24 Live Coaching Call – Module 3
Thursday, 2/8/24 Live Coaching Call – Module 4
Thursday, 2/22/24 Live Coaching Call – Module 5
Thursday, 3/7/24 – Live Coaching Call – Module 6 Closing Call
All calls are Pacific Time zone

How long will I have access to the trainings and replays?

Replays will be available until one month after the end of the program

My schedule is so busy, what is the weekly time commitment?

You’ll want to commit about 1-2 hours minutes/week to attending calls and doing homework

What if I can't make the calls?

All calls will be recorded, and available 48 hours after the call

What if I'm brand new to boundaries, will this help me?

Absolutely yes. Most boundary work is approached from the space of the cognitive while neglecting the body and the nervous system. With this strategy, boundaries can be momentarily effective, but especially for overachievers and trauma survivors, we need more. This program provides that. Whether you are brand new to boundary work, or you’ve been doing this work for years, this program will support your journey.

I've already done therapy and worked on my boundaries, how will this program be different?

This program is designed to give you concrete practices for working on your boundaries. In therapy, there is talk and reflection. In this program you won’t just be talking about and reflecting on your boundaries, you’ll be doing something about them.

Using a customizable, cognitive and somatic approach we will go beyond the theory of boundary work and into the practice of it. Together we will learn, explore, make decisions and develop new habits around your boundaries that will transform the ways you relate to and communicate about your boundaries to the people in your life. 

What is the refund policy?

This program is non-refundable. We’re embarking on a journey together, and it will add to the safety and integrity of the group if we can trust that we’ll be in it together the whole way through.

Not sure if it’s right for you? Please take the time to read through this page, and tune into what your guts and your heart have to tell you about making this investment. This is also a boundary decision for you. Give yourself the space to really listen to that quiet voice inside about whether this is right for you at this time. If you still have questions, feel free to book a call with me using any of the call links on this page. 

What happens when I enroll?

You’ll get your kickoff homework assignment, and immediately begin the work of understanding what boundaries are and what they’re not, defining your personal boundary style, and identifying the specific areas of growth for your particular badass boundaries path.

Sonya Brewer

Somatic Coach

Thrive After Trauma and Create the Life Your Truly Want

My Story

As a survivor of childhood trauma and neglect myself, I know first hand how grueling it can feel living with the residues of trauma, and I know what it takes to heal and transform the experience of trauma so that it’s no longer running the show in your life.

Over the last thirty years, I’ve explored lots of different kinds of therapeutic healing techniques — talk therapy, retreats, workshops, spiritual healing ceremonies, dance therapy, hakomi therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, rolfing, integrative bodywork, shamanic journeys, energy healing, acupuncture, sound healing, sensorimotor psychotherapy, breathwork… the list goes on. For a long time, transforming my own trauma WAS my life’s work.

Somewhere along the way, I started to feel better… I started to feel like the experience of childhood trauma wasn’t shaping my internal world or running my life. I started to feel excited about my life and relationships. There was an internal effervescence… a lightness and aliveness that began to permeate my world. I felt free, and it was exhilarating.

Eventually I started sharing what I was learning — first as a sex and intimacy coach and bodyworker, and later, as a psychotherapist, somatic coach and relationship expert. For the last 20 years, helping other women and gender expansive survivors learn to thrive after childhood trauma has been my mission.

With in-depth training in somatic psychology, relational psychotherapy, group dynamics and somatic coaching (Generative Somatics and the Strozzi Institute), as well as training in trauma recovery through the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Somatic Experiencing Institutes, I’ve learned some shortcuts– so it doesn’t have to take years and years to experience results.

And now, I’m making this powerful synthesis of trauma healing tools and resources available to you, without your having to wait for an opening in my private practice.

You deserve a life free from the residues of trauma– a life beyond fear, beyond anxiety, beyond feeling not good enough. If you’re interested in learning how to get there, join us!  I hope to see you there!

Copyright Sonya Brewer
Main photos by Candace, The Essence Photographer